KanoasDestiny
Well-Known Member
Let's say you had someone in your immediate family that viciously murdered someone. Would you be accepting of the crime, or the person that committed it? I don't want to get into specifics, but my sister in law murdered her 3 year old child, and tried killing her infant child as well, about 15 years ago. Riverside police said it was the worst child-involved crime they had ever seen. She served 10 years in an institution, where she bragged about "hooking up" with fellow patients, got out and started dating a drug dealer while pushing her 19 year old brother to purchase drugs from him, started working in a bar where she would drink herself into a faint, and basically has shown that she is not in the least remorseful for what she did.
I refuse to have anything to do with her, and have missed almost every family occasion that she has been invited to. I feel in my heart that she is the same monster she was then, and I fear it will only take something little, to set her off again. I refuse to put my life in danger. Mark also has as little to do with her as possible, as he feels the same way about her as I do. We are the only ones who have not accepted her eagerly back into our lives, therefore, we are the outcasts and no one understands or respects our decision to stay away from her. I currently have a family member who is upset at me because she has recently started letting her 2 year old daughter be around my sister-in-law, and I made the comment that it is child endangerment.
Is this a case where we should forgive and forget, just like the rest of the family has...or do I have just cause to not socialize with her?
I refuse to have anything to do with her, and have missed almost every family occasion that she has been invited to. I feel in my heart that she is the same monster she was then, and I fear it will only take something little, to set her off again. I refuse to put my life in danger. Mark also has as little to do with her as possible, as he feels the same way about her as I do. We are the only ones who have not accepted her eagerly back into our lives, therefore, we are the outcasts and no one understands or respects our decision to stay away from her. I currently have a family member who is upset at me because she has recently started letting her 2 year old daughter be around my sister-in-law, and I made the comment that it is child endangerment.
Is this a case where we should forgive and forget, just like the rest of the family has...or do I have just cause to not socialize with her?