Kim Rule
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Hi everybody...I got back late last night. I was going to go to work tomorrow, but I have a horrible cold, and I feel lousy. I am not sure I understand all of this, but I feel different somehow. Even home feels different. Mom never saw this home, I'm not sure why it feels different. I guess it's just me.
All of my brothers and sisters were there. As we were cleaning the house, I kept waiting for Mom to come around the corner, and say "I KNEW it would take something like this to get you all together! What are you doing to my house!!?" But, it never happened.
I think we found a home for Mom's cat. Thank you, everyone that gave suggestions and offered help with that.
We worked on the business end of what needs to be done when someone dies. Mom left specific instructions about what to do with her body, and the fact she didn't want a funeral. She paid for most of it too. Sunday night we had a wake for her at the social center in her mobile home park. We served ice cream and cake, because she loved to go to ice cream socials when she could move around better.
Before the wake, my brothers and sisters and I all went out to the desert. We acted like goofy kids...putting coins on the railroad track and letting a train run over them...my brother Stuart raced the train, running beside it as it went down the track. Then we shared what was in our hearts. We didn't gloss over hard feelings, we all knew Mom wasn't perfect. We shared good things too. We also thanked Mom for the gift of our brothers and sisters who we love so much. We stood in a circle, with our arms around each other and cried like babies. It was a joyful, hard, fun, gut-wrenching afternoon. I am exhausted.
Now I was set to get my life back to normal, but I get the feeling it will take a while.
I miss my mom.
Go hug yours.
Kim R.
All of my brothers and sisters were there. As we were cleaning the house, I kept waiting for Mom to come around the corner, and say "I KNEW it would take something like this to get you all together! What are you doing to my house!!?" But, it never happened.
I think we found a home for Mom's cat. Thank you, everyone that gave suggestions and offered help with that.
We worked on the business end of what needs to be done when someone dies. Mom left specific instructions about what to do with her body, and the fact she didn't want a funeral. She paid for most of it too. Sunday night we had a wake for her at the social center in her mobile home park. We served ice cream and cake, because she loved to go to ice cream socials when she could move around better.
Before the wake, my brothers and sisters and I all went out to the desert. We acted like goofy kids...putting coins on the railroad track and letting a train run over them...my brother Stuart raced the train, running beside it as it went down the track. Then we shared what was in our hearts. We didn't gloss over hard feelings, we all knew Mom wasn't perfect. We shared good things too. We also thanked Mom for the gift of our brothers and sisters who we love so much. We stood in a circle, with our arms around each other and cried like babies. It was a joyful, hard, fun, gut-wrenching afternoon. I am exhausted.
Now I was set to get my life back to normal, but I get the feeling it will take a while.
I miss my mom.
Go hug yours.
Kim R.