Okay... out of work social worker here... First of all.. let me say.. CONGRATS! Now see if you have United Way in your area and call them, and ask them if they can refer you to a social worker that has a resource book for your county. Then ask them where you can go to apply for Medicaid. Yes, married people are eligible for medicaid, it just depends on your liquid assets pretty much .. or if you drive a big new dually... you could have a problem then. Once you get some information, I'm pretty sure you can get financial assistance to pay 100% of your medical bills. Now, if assets comes into question, you need to make sure you have a seperation of your business and personal assets. If you include your business assets in with her personal assets, it won't work, and you will have to foot that size bill. If you cannot ge any answers call the hospital you think you will deliver at, and ask to speak to a social worker there. Tell her your concerns and that it's not that you don't want to pay.. but you don't want your credit rating dinged and that you don't keep that kind of money laying around the house.
Okay, as far as the pain goes.. there are two kinds of anastetic for pain, there is a spinal ... and an epidural. The spinal thing.. (now we need a nurse here).. is ONE shot... (don't take that).. and the epidural is a tube that continues to deliver medicaiton to you while you have the baby. Heck we could open a debate on this, but I had a C-section and the darn shot wore off, BEFORE they had her out.. or sewed me up... need I say more???
During the pregnancy, you might experience pain iin your legs and feet.. there is a pill you can take for this... buta... (something).. if you ask the doctor for it. The biggest thing is to make sure you stay off sugar right now. Keep the salt in your diet to a minimal.. (I put on 80 lbs with one pregnancy).. You don't want to have to take diabetic insulin shots and you don't want excess water weight. I lived in Maine for one of my three pregnancies and ate lobster and watermelon... 24/7. Everyone laughed at hubby carrying watermelon by the half dozen out of the store. I could eat alot of watermelon and still be on a diabetic diet.. so I ate it with every meal... (that way I ate less food with salt in it)... Also we lived in Maine in Rockland (next to Rockport) and lobster was CHEAP. Now this daughter... (God Bless her) has an IQ over 150.. and I give lobster the credit. Plus I could eat lots of that, and not have blood sugar problems. I think eating more protein was important to keeping the carbs down, and the blood sugar stable. I did that for the next pregnancy... and that pregnancy was fine too.
Okay... last ... but not least. Take ten mins each day to pray for yourself and your baby. It's a great stress reliver.. and it can't hurt. I'll put you on my prayer list too... but you have to keep us posted.
Now, you wanna talk stress??? I'm building a new house... started March of 2004!!! They are finally breaking ground this week!!!! Need I say more??? Wanna switch??? Lol..
God Bless,
Lynn W
P.S. I was perimenopausal when I had my last two. I was age 44 and had gone through the hot flashes and all that. The doctor put me on the pill, because of the risk to my health, because I wasn't well... diabetic problems...
so what happens??? I get preggers... thanks to the pill. Can I suggest an IUD next time??? It may have it's problems, but.. well, it worked better for me.
