Update:
Well it seems it may be officially over. Why no jumping, screaming for joy? Well I guess because I've learned over the last year that sometimes even though things seem resolved, something can still come up. But for
now, it's over.
On July 19, 2011, the judge ruled in my favor! In his written decision, he cited my ex's (and his "wife's") "commitment ceremony", their invitations, her white dress, the church in which the ceremony was held, the fact that it was performed by a minister, scripture was read, vows were exchanged, traditional wedding-style rings were exchanged (and still worn, except for the trial
) as a "substitute for marriage" and the only reason they didn't apply for a marriage license was to "continue to receive spousal support" from me. I was awarded back alimony payments (to August of 2010) and all court costs, not attys fees. I don't expect I'll ever see a dime of it, but at least I no longer have to pay.
I couldn't mention it back in July as my ex technically had 40 days to appeal. But this past week I recieved a check from him as "partial" payment. I got out my calculator and realized at this rate, it will take him 144 months (12 years) to pay me back!
Again, I don't expect to ever really see the money. But my lawyer did file a lien against his home (that he bought with the almost $125k he got in cash when we first divorced
) so if he ever sells it, I will get my judgement plus 9% which is a pretty good investment these days!
Thank you EVERYONE for all the kind and supportive wishes and thoughts!
They all meant the world to me and I truly believe they all added up and helped!
I wouldn't wish this, financially or emotionally, on my worst enemy. So glad it seems to be over.
