The thing is that your husband does not have an issue with this. That is then totally different.Oh, and I spend plenty of hours alone with men other than my husband. And I'm not interested in any of them other than for friendships and coworkers. I'm called out in the middle of the night by male residents and surgeons for work, and if my husband didn't trust ME those 2 am phone calls could easily be assumed into "booty" calls! :new_shocked: And it isn't unheard of for me to be at work 24 hours straight when I'm on call.
Makes you wonder...if you were to muster up the courage and go with them...if they would keep you out until midnight too. :bgrinI think you should take up flying even if for a short time. Go on every flying trip with the 2 of them you can. Then see how long it takes for him to change his hobby.
Let me say this much.... While I haven't been married for 30 years, I have been married for just about 20 years and all was well until last year. Total trust between the two of us. In fact, I would spend time every weekend for hours on end with my family and often come home after midnight with him in bed. And my hubby would do as he pleased and leave early in the morning to do his car things. (He is a morning person, I am a night owl.) And we made sure to at least spend part of the day together as well.I am absolutely floored at how many of you have the opinion that women and men and vice versa are unable to be good friends (close friends) without it turning into something else. I am also glad that my husband has never told me what I can do and can't do, because he knows darn well that wouldn't work with me and neither would I ever dream of telling him he can't pursue his passions in life even though I might not be interested at all in his passions and he in mine. I am lucky he feels secure enough in himself and our relationship not to go looking for things that just aren't there and I feel secure enough in letting him follow what he likes to do. After 30 + years of marriage if the trust is not there it never will be. I guess as you get older you learn not to sweat the small stuff unless you have absolute proof it's not small stuff.
Thank you everyone. I really am so confused.:
He has only been out on a handful of occasions with her. He does not hide anything from me as far as emails, phone calls etc. He has mentioned on many occasions that I should meet her to put my mind at rest.
I don't get the feeling he is doing anything wrong with her, but I can't help but feel terribly jealous.
I'd really love to hear some men reply here, as men often have a different point of view.
I have spoken with him on all levels regarding this, through anger, tears and also just being totally honest with him. I don't want to stop him living out his passion as it would be forever held against me. I really don't want to be a wife that tells my husband what he can and can't do.
If the shoe was on the other foot though, I would put my partners feelings above my own desires. I guess thats why it makes it so hard to understand his point of view.
I am absolutely floored at how many of you have the opinion that women and men and vice versa are unable to be good friends (close friends) without it turning into something else. I am also glad that my husband has never told me what I can do and can't do, because he knows darn well that wouldn't work with me and neither would I ever dream of telling him he can't pursue his passions in life even though I might not be interested at all in his passions and he in mine. I am lucky he feels secure enough in himself and our relationship not to go looking for things that just aren't there and I feel secure enough in letting him follow what he likes to do. After 30 + years of marriage if the trust is not there it never will be. I guess as you get older you learn not to sweat the small stuff unless you have absolute proof it's not small stuff.
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