Danielle_E.
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:new_rofl: If you knew my male friend, you wouldn't be saying what you said above about him being interested in me. This is a guy that has been through two divorces, is NOT interested in any of that and certainly not with me. He knows my husband very well, my kids have known him for MANY years, he helped my daughter when we first got into horses, he has been my mentor with horses for many many years...he is a great guy, good FRIEND, if he ever needed help with anything I would be there in a heartbeat. I truly don't understand this mentality of many of you that you automatically jump to the conclusion that it's not possible to have a great and good friend of the opposite sex without anything happening past the "friendship". If someone is heck bent on cheating on their spouse, for whatever reason, they more than likely are not open about it at all to their spouse, they hide all of it. It the guy or gal who routinely stays at work late and has lame excuses, perhaps extends business trips routinely, spends much more time away from home without a valid reason, etc. etc.I just have to add something here.
Danielle E you may be a exception to the rule in this situation. It sounds like you have a totally innocent relationship with your male friend. That is great.
I still firmly believe that when a married man/woman is seeking the company of the opposite sex it is fishy! Warning bells would also be sounding if my husband told me I was "insecure", and was not prepared to end the friendship knowing it was hurting me!
I also believe a little jealousy is healthy in a relationship. There is also a huge difference in being controlling and caring about your marriage.
If you want to have friends of the opposite sex (when your significant other finds it offensive) then don't get married! Marriage is about respect & commitment to each other. I guarantee that at least one of the "friendships" mentioned in this post has one party that is interesred in the other. Danielle E you truly may not be "interested" in your male friend in that way, but is he interested in you??????:
I believe there is usually a ulterior motive behind such friendships.
I would also be very interested to know if Maplegum's husband would take her up on the offer to meet this "other woman" anyway! Is he just offering this to her to put her mind at rest? That would be a test in itself!
I guess I am very lucky that the relationship that I have with my husband, we both feel secure in. It certainly is not to say it's the perfect marriage, we have had our difficult times, but this particular issue has never been part of that. My husband is a golfer, or was for many years and he use to golf 3 or 4 times a week which at first really ticked me off. He would golf with male friends and female friends but I hated the sport. I tried it but I did not have patience with myself for the game. So why torture myself, lol. He would golf and I would do the horse thing. Why would I make him miserable by complaining to him and telling him, no you can't go golfing with your buddies (male or female), why? As I said if a person is heck bent on straying in a marriage they are going to do it no matter what the other does. By listening to the original poster here and her story that her husband moved to Australia and everything else, I would say he loves his wife VERY much and that there is absolutely nothing going on except for his passion for flying. She can either make herself sick over this, imagining all kinds of things are going on, or she can perhaps have the other woman over with her boyfriend and bring it all out in the open.
If I recall in a previous post it was mentioned that he use to have his pilot's licence but it expired and it was mentioned that the expense to renew, etc. is just not feasible at this time. With that information do you not think that perhaps this is the only opportunity he has at the moment to pursue his passion for flying and nothing else is going on, except him wanting to be able to fly? Being able to renew his license or finding a male individual who would be willing to take him flying would solve the problem.
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