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Marty

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I'd been very sick with major high temps 104+, coughing and sore throat since Memorial Day weekend and finally went to my doctor. I really try to avoid doctor visits so I only go if I'm really bad. I don't cry wolf and always do what they tell me to and try very hard not to be a pain and bother them with stupid stuff. I told my Dr. besides the obvious, it felt like something was stuck in my throat but she didn't see anything so she diagnosed me with pneumonia, sent me packing with a lot of perscriptions, and left the country on vacation that very next day--- with no one on call for her, but she did leave a couple of girls in her office. I'm not one to complain so I really didn't want to say anything that I was getting worse, but I finally got so bad that I did call to report that my windpipe had been shutting closed, I couldn't swallow or get my breath and it was getting impossible to drink..Its been hot. I work hard and I drink a lot. They had me come in for a 20 minute breathing treatment and gave me a sample of a different inhaler. Nothing was helping much and I was a the point I couldn't lay down without gasping for air at all again telling them there was something stuck in my throat so I was sitting up all night in my chair every night as going to bed was not an option.

.It was very hot all the time and I couldn't hardly sip water from a straw as nothing would pass down my throat normally. It would take like 5 minutes for one sip of water to go down and food was out of the question even things like jello and popcycles. Mr Retirement is all over my case about this and kept telling me we had to get to the bottom of this but I'm not liking all this complaining I've been doing and worried I"m making people mad at me. But the problem went on more and more every day and night so once again I called the office and they told me to gargle a lot every day. Then the Doctor returned from vacation so I called her office yet again and notified them I had fainted 4 times in one day probably because I can't eat or hardly drink and I have to function because now I have a sick dog on my hands that needs me and I'm really getting a little bit upset. She increased my RX dosage and added 2 more perscriptions (now I have 7) and didn't really think I needed to come in. Now I was loosing my voice and getting too weak to do anything anymore. Then one night we were up at 3:00 am trying every which way to get me to breathe and we almost called an ambulance but I didn't want to go to the hospital hoping this will resolve itself soon. Reported this incident yet again to the office that next morning soon as they opened and they said they would tell the Doctor and they never called me back at all.

Friday night I knew I was dead.Throat closed solid shut and I had no voice left at all gasping for air again and couldn't swallow once more. This time it was lasting too long again. Two thirty in the morning Paramedics had to come and said if it were another 5 minutes I would have been dead or they would have had to slit my throat and do a trache on my living room floor. My husband showed them my tray of meds and they said I was having an allergic reaction to some of them. In the ambulance they did epinephrine OMG I thought that was going to kill me too..... and there were all kinds of other shots, IV's for hydration and who knows what. Incredible ride down the mountain in a storm with sirens screaming. I was beyond freaked out but loved whatever was taking effect in those IV's except that epinephrine which makes you feel like you are having a heart attack. . By the time I got to the hospital my airways were a lot better. Not normal but better. That paramedic saved my life. He told me he was a Navy Seal paramedic for 30 years and had seen this a million times in antibiotic meds mostly. ER Dr. there was really nice and couldn't believe all the meds I was on and how dehydrated I was. He said I had been overdosed on poor medicine choices, apparently I had an allergic reaction and said indeed there is something wrong with my throat as my neck was huge and beet red. I thought that was because I'm fat and sunburned. They did some blood tests there but then I had to go to Chattanooga emergency room from there because they didn't have a lot of equipment in this little country emergency clinic to see what is wrong with my throat.

Now afer 50 miles I'm in another emergency room and had to go in that big monster thing that eats you up....MRI? I take one look at that spaceship and about lost my mind because I'm totally claustrophobic, but learned that valium was going to be my new best friend to get me through that. It sure didt! I'm trying again not to be a pain but I kept telling them we have to hurry this thing up because my dog has a mystery illness and I can't leave her unattended and I needed to get home. Wonder if they thought they od'd me on vallium? The doctor and nurses there there were very good and examined my bag of meds I had brought with us. They also were astounded at the amounts I was taking and said some of them were notorious for dangerous side effects and swelling up the throat and I was severely overdosed. Allergic reaction for sure confirmed. . Seems that I have an enlarged thyroid/ (goiter) and when the medicine caused my throat to swell up, it hit up against my thyroid and blocked my airwaves. Somewhere along the line they also said I exhibited possible signs of sleep apnea while sedated which added more confusion.

Presently I am not taking any drugs at all and I have to see another doctor for the thyroid problem who can't get me in for 2 weeks so I'll have to deal with that.. I'm still having swallowing issues because of my huge thyroid and frankly scared to go to bed so I'm still sitting up in the chair at night but that's ok . I have to go shopping for some serious insurance really quick. .

So here's the thing: If I had the nerve, which I don't because I'm such a wus, I'd like to say a few things to my former Doctor. I'm sure she doesn't know I had the ambulance or was in two hospitals trying not to croak or that she's fired. I'm not even positive all my messages ever made it past the desk to her. Some of them did of course because she increased my dosage and kept writting more perscriptions, I'm very disappointed and actually very sad in their lack of interest after having my whole family as patients, and knowing us very well for a good many years. I kinda thought they liked me better than that! I don't think speaking to them about this whole ordeal would accomplish a thing therefore I am going to remain silent and anxious to move on and get started with a new doctor somewhere else.

Up until now I wouldn't have cared if I croaked because I want to see my son so badly. But now that I have my beautiful grandaughter, I think I'd like to stick around for a while longer.

I'm sure there's a message in this somewhere or a heads up.
 
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, and hope you start to feel better soon.

Back in the 70's I thought I was going to die, I couldn't keep anything down, coming out both ends, high fever, weak, lost 15 pounds in one week. Went to my General practioner he said virus, no meds. two days later went to the ER as I was so weak I couldn't stand. They also said virus, no blood work, nothing. Gave me an IV for dehydration, sent me home. I finally did improve but it took about three weeks, and I lost 25 pounds total in fluid and weight. Earlier this year I had blood drawn to check for lyme and they told me that at some point in my life I had Rocky Mountain Spotted fever. Well it only took me decades to find out what happened in the 70's.
 
You poor thing Marty. I'm so sorry to read about your problems and hope today finds you better. I wonder if you can't bring yourself to say these things to your doctor if you could write her a letter? What terrible care you received and I'm just so glad the paramedic was so knowledgeable and able to save you.
 
I guess the bad news for everyone else is -- it's only going to get worse. Doctors will be stretched thinner and thinner and fewer are going to go into the field. Wait lists and rationing loom.
 
I am so very glad you found out something.My experience with most doctors is that they are just pill pushers.Much of the drug company stock is owned by doctors and doctors get so many perks from drug companies.Free vacations etc.ALL DRUGS HAVE SIDE EFFECTS and sometimes the side effects are far worse than the problem you are initialy experiencing. I find that my vet is a better medical person than lots of doctors.IMO you are correct to get rid of that doctor.Glad you are making progress.
 
I think you should find a way to explain to your previous Dr what happened to you and what it ended up being. If only because if this ever happens to another of their patients MAYBE they will remember this and will actually do the right thing. Another person may not be so lucky to get the paramedic that you did... Who knows maybe they have another patient right now going through the same thing. I beg you to please say something because you just never know. I am so glad to know that you are feeling better and are hopefully on the way to a full recovery.
 
I was schedualed for an MRI for some bone lesions on my hand ... the hospital made the appiontment to have the MRI read but never made the appointment for the MRI . It takes 1 hour to get to the doctor .?)(/&%ç I think these problems are universal , really frustrating though . I am glad you finally had your MRI .
 
Hope you are feeling better and have a quick and complete recovery.
 
OMG Marty!!!! Glad you are still with us- sounds like an alternative ending was on it's way!

Yes, here's the moral to this story: Fifty percent of the doctors out there graduated at the bottom half of their class.

After what I personally and others that I have seen close up have been through, I dont have a lot of faith in the medical field at all. There's only two things in life that have been 'cured'. Ham, and shoe leather.

Good grief I hope you recover now and hope things with your thyroid gets straightened out- DONT put it off and get it thoroughly checked out!

Oh, and I would certainly write a letter to your doctor's office!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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I am so glad you got the help you needed in the nick of time Marty. Oddly enough when your dog was having such strange behavior I started to send you a message that I had a gut feeling that your dog was sensing something about your well-being to the point it was making her act like she was. Take care of yourself. You have been going through so much for so long and eventually it takes its toll. Stress on top of grief and grief on top of stress will eventually manifest itself in autoimmune diseases. I have a couple of them myself. Not fun. Please hydrate and hydrate more. Get some rest. Then when you feel better take some long walks with Amy. I bet she will start acting even more normal. Read some books that make you laugh and make you appreciate that the sun always will come through and shine after the storm. I wish I could think of some authors right off the top of my head. Maybe somebody else can recommend. Right now I am trying to think of that little short woman (now deceased) that was the queen of writing satire of her everyday situations. Maybe the fog will lift from my brain and I can remember her name. God loves you Marty and it is normal to think that going to that eternal home to re-unite with loved ones needs to just happen because this life has more crap in it than we think we should have to deal with. But then reality sets in and you realize you just have to keep trucking on in this life meanwhile so make the ride as comfortable as possible I say. As far as your former physician goes I think I would have to tell her my thoughts even if I had to make an appointment and pay a co-pay. Actually, I did just that a few years ago with my former ob-gyn. You might want to consider talking to an attorney just in case you have residual problems from that prescription mix you were given.

Edited to add: It is Erma Bombeck I was trying to think of! I was out filling a bucket of beet pulp to soak when it it me. Read some Erma Bombeck...she is good kind of contagious.
 
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Marty

Before I had my son 8 years ago I had to do the same. I seen this so called doctor for my sugar problem that I had been seeing since 2000. Seen this doctor on a Tuesday and had my son on Thursday of that week. Well on Tuesday we talk and for 9 months this doctor knew what hospital I was using because I am a big baby when it comes to pain I wanted a near by hospital had a doctor appt on that Thursday because he wanted to see me on the same days I had my other appt. I went into labor on Thursday this doctor would not come to the hospital because I did not come in and see him on thursaday well that is kinda hard to do when I am in another hospital having a baby. The moral of the story is half of these doctors don't care they are in it for the money! I went back to my family doctor and my a1c count is the best it has ever been and my sugar level stays around 120 all day long. The other doctor could not get it down this low.

Marty

Before I had my son 8 years ago I had to do the same. I seen this so called doctor for my sugar problem that I had been seeing since 2000. Seen this doctor on a Tuesday and had my son on Thursday of that week. Well on Tuesday we talk and for 9 months this doctor knew what hospital I was using because I am a big baby when it comes to pain I wanted a near by hospital had a doctor appt on that Thursday because he wanted to see me on the same days I had my other appt. I went into labor on Thursday this doctor would not come to the hospital because I did not come in and see him on thursaday well that is kinda hard to do when I am in another hospital having a baby. The moral of the story is half of these doctors don't care they are in it for the money! I went back to my family doctor and my a1c count is the best it has ever been and my sugar level stays around 120 all day long. The other doctor could not get it down this low.

Marty

Before I had my son 8 years ago I had to do the same. I seen this so called doctor for my sugar problem that I had been seeing since 2000. Seen this doctor on a Tuesday and had my son on Thursday of that week. Well on Tuesday we talk and for 9 months this doctor knew what hospital I was using because I am a big baby when it comes to pain I wanted a near by hospital had a doctor appt on that Thursday because he wanted to see me on the same days I had my other appt. I went into labor on Thursday this doctor would not come to the hospital because I did not come in and see him on thursaday well that is kinda hard to do when I am in another hospital having a baby. The moral of the story is half of these doctors don't care they are in it for the money! I went back to my family doctor and my a1c count is the best it has ever been and my sugar level stays around 120 all day long. The other doctor could not get it down this low.
 
I am so sorry for the subpar care you received and hope you continue to recover.

I know you don't want to complain or whine to your doctor, but what about all those folks out there....you know...the ones who never complained who are now dead due to her care or the young ones going to her for care not knowing what may happen to them. They may all think they are liked the "best" too. Having a good bed side manner is not at all the same as having good medical skills.

If you don't want to actually speak with her, send her a letter. Or better yet, send her a letter with a copy to an attorney.

I have always voiced my opinion. If I am paying for service of any kind, I will let it be known whenever I am unhappy with the service provided. Afterall....if you don't tell them....how will they ever know they need to improve?? They may think they are doing just "fine"!!
 
I had suggested sending her a letter (that way you have a paper trail, not a personal conversation that is not going to go any further) - I would also send a copy of it to the Medical Association. I do not believe that doctors are supposed to be writing scripts without SEEING the patient- especially when the symptoms are changing and getting worse. The Medical Assoc. has to review every complaint and yes, then I would seriously think about an attorney. Marty you were minutes from not being here and what would your family have done then?
 
I feel you NEED to send a letter and advise her...........send it certified, return receipt!

I'd even ask her to pay for the last RX's and reimburse any out of pocket on the ER's, etc.

Too many people do NOT report such things and doctors are people, too. They get too busy and hurried and careless. We need to help them do better.

Why not just edit your post a little and send it. The facts are there.........you go, gal!! Glad you found help and sorry for the ordeal.
 
Oh Marty! I am so glad you are ok!!! I hate to say this, but we are now of an age where we need to not be so tough and go to a doc sooner than later. And a new doc at that!

I am also getting ready to fire my doc and am really bummed about it. I have been going to her for over 20 years but I had been having some complex problems the past few months with a nasty bout of cellulitis and needing to be on very long term antibiotics and was under the care of my ortho doc since it was in the leg with the replaced knee. I started to have intestinal problems that seemed like possible C-Diff so I emailed her about it. Her reply was that my case was just too complex and I should see a specialist, namely a gastro doc. Called him, can't get in for two months! That's great, if it is C-Diff, I'll be beyond sick by then so said never mind. Ortho doc came to the rescue and we got things settled down quickly.

That really got me thinking, the other worry about her is she has no hospital admitting privileges. When the cellulitis started, I should have been admitted and put on IV antibiotics. Instead, it was pills by mouth and hey, good luck. Most times something comes up, hey, go see this specialist or that specialist. I feel like a freaking conductor now trying to make sure they all know what the others are doing.

Like you, Marty, I am now going to look for a new doc, but how do I find her? Yes, her, I am picky and want a woman primary care doc even though all of my specialists are men. I want a certain personality type, no jackasses, you know how some docs can be.... but how do you find them? Since I am going to switch, it is time to move to a doc closer to where I live as my current doc is an hour away. She was close to me when I started with her but not now.

So Marty and others, if you have any ideas on how to conduct this search, let me know! I am lucky with my specialists, all but the bariatric surgeon are great. He is an butt head and on my list of docs to be fired.
 
Thank you everyone for your support. Honestly I can take a lot of pain and I'm just not the complaining type, but not breathing is incredibly scary, but I think I'm going to have to learn to speak up a little bit now for myself.

I bit the bullet and called the office to speak to the girl in there that I'm friends/neighbors with. She did confirm that all my messages were received. She told me I actually called 11 times in 21/2 weeks about these problems and was floored that I was allergic and now have an enlarged thyroid. She couldn't really comment on the Doc of course because she doesn't want to loose her job but let's just say, her jaw was on the floor when I filled her in and she was livid. So now Doc knows the whole thing and never bothered to call me at all. A lot of people think I should have called my lawyer. Dan took it the worse. He was ready to go down there and kick her door in and give her "what fer" I was like OMG no! You can't go to the slammer when you have a baby!!! LOL You just can't mess with Dan's mama! LOL

As for a new doctor. You just have to ask around. Ask your friends, especially the ones that have real problems! I found a new doctor already. The trauma doctor who attended me in Chattanooga highly recommended a young, female doctor who actually runs the entire hospital where I was treated. The attending nurses said I was going to really like her a lot. Gads, I hope I'm not old enough to be her mother or worse! Appointment is on Thursday.

As for the relationship between this and Amy, got to tell you that thought did enter my mind. She's usually never more than 2 feet away from me so who knows what radar she can really pick up? She's much better by the way but not completely. How ironic that she started feeling so much better when I came home from the hospital and suddenly was able to breathe right again. hmmmmmm
 
So Marty and others, if you have any ideas on how to conduct this search, let me know! I am lucky with my specialists, all but the bariatric surgeon are great. He is an butt head and on my list of docs to be fired.
Why don't you ask a couple of those specialists who they might recommend as a GP in your area. I realize they might be biased, but it would be a place to start.
 
As for the relationship between this and Amy, got to tell you that thought did enter my mind. She's usually never more than 2 feet away from me so who knows what radar she can really pick up? She's much better by the way but not completely. How ironic that she started feeling so much better when I came home from the hospital and suddenly was able to breathe right again. hmmmmmm
Not that it might not of been something just bothering Amy, but considering There are trained seizure dogs, dogs helping people with Parkinson's and so much, I wouldn't doubt Amy was tuned into something not right with you, even before you knew it. Heck I think I've even heard of dogs alerting to a diabetic episode coming on. Dogs are so tuned in to the world around them, some moreso than others.
 
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