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StarRidgeAcres
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This has been bothering me for a very long time now. I guess I would like to know if others think I am over-reacting and should just let it go or what.
Over the last few years, when I've been financially able - even when it meant putting myself in some difficulty - I've "donated" money to different personal causes. These have all been to horse-related people. We all hear the stories... my horse needs surgery, my spouse is ill, a natural disaster, etc. Sometimes the individuals ask for the money, sometimes another person asks on their behalf. Sometimes it's a direct ask for money, sometimes it's a benefit auction-type event.
I realize it is totally my decision to donate or not; nobody is holding a gun to my head.
Maybe I was just raised differently, but my mother insisted on saying "thank you." If I received something, I'd better have said a polite thank you or written a note or I'd have gotten heck from her. Even as an adult, I make a conscious effort to thank someone when they do something nice or help me in some way. So I guess I expect the same in return.
I can think of at least FOUR times that I've donated money to something I learned about here on LB and NEVER got an email, a card, a phone call, not even a PM saying even two simple words: Thank you. Am I just over-reacting? I'm totally dumbfounded by this behavior. I would NEVER consider cashing someone's personal check or accepting a paypal transfer if I wasn't, at a minimum, going to thank them for it. I just wouldn't do it. And then, especially if I was accepting money from mutiple people to pay bills I supposedly couldn't and then showed up at Nationals or Worlds that same year showing horses...well, I just can't imagine doing that when I'd never even had the simple manners to say thank you for what I received. My mother would turn over in her grave if I did something like that.
So, what do others think? Have basic manners just totally vanished from our society? I'm really just confused as to the kind of people who do this.
OK, hopefully I'm done venting on this subject!
I wanted to add...there have also been times I've donated to things I learned about on LB where I did receive a thank you and in those cases I'd certainly do the same again. But those people who just take the money and run really make it hard on those sincere folks because it makes me hesitant to be as generous in the future.
Over the last few years, when I've been financially able - even when it meant putting myself in some difficulty - I've "donated" money to different personal causes. These have all been to horse-related people. We all hear the stories... my horse needs surgery, my spouse is ill, a natural disaster, etc. Sometimes the individuals ask for the money, sometimes another person asks on their behalf. Sometimes it's a direct ask for money, sometimes it's a benefit auction-type event.
I realize it is totally my decision to donate or not; nobody is holding a gun to my head.
Maybe I was just raised differently, but my mother insisted on saying "thank you." If I received something, I'd better have said a polite thank you or written a note or I'd have gotten heck from her. Even as an adult, I make a conscious effort to thank someone when they do something nice or help me in some way. So I guess I expect the same in return.
I can think of at least FOUR times that I've donated money to something I learned about here on LB and NEVER got an email, a card, a phone call, not even a PM saying even two simple words: Thank you. Am I just over-reacting? I'm totally dumbfounded by this behavior. I would NEVER consider cashing someone's personal check or accepting a paypal transfer if I wasn't, at a minimum, going to thank them for it. I just wouldn't do it. And then, especially if I was accepting money from mutiple people to pay bills I supposedly couldn't and then showed up at Nationals or Worlds that same year showing horses...well, I just can't imagine doing that when I'd never even had the simple manners to say thank you for what I received. My mother would turn over in her grave if I did something like that.
So, what do others think? Have basic manners just totally vanished from our society? I'm really just confused as to the kind of people who do this.
OK, hopefully I'm done venting on this subject!
I wanted to add...there have also been times I've donated to things I learned about on LB where I did receive a thank you and in those cases I'd certainly do the same again. But those people who just take the money and run really make it hard on those sincere folks because it makes me hesitant to be as generous in the future.
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