ILoveMyGelding
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I have finally reached my breaking point with Jeremy's mom. I know there are a lot of grandparents on this forum so I'm looking for possibly a different perspective or maybe even someone who knows what I'm going through. I need to figure out how to fix this soon! Jeremy's mom lives two streets over from us. My mom lives with us. I've told his mom that she can come over ANY time. Jeremy's mom seems to think that she has visiting rights with our son. She expects us to pack him up at least three times a week and take him over to her house so she can baby sit. I don't really think it is fair since he's only a month old and babies really shouldn't be going out that much, especially since winter is coming up. Not to mention, Ryder has had a cold for the past two weeks already. She makes comments all the time that she never gets to see Ryder. I know this is just out of jealousy since my mom lives with us. But there is a huge difference. My mom is helping us with everything, not just taking him to spend time with him. She folds his laundry, changes diapers, feeds him late at night so I can get a couple hours sleep. And here's the big thing...my mom pays our RENT! Jeremy's mom has made comments to us about how she's bought him alot of stuff and my mom hasn't. My mom could afford to buy more stuff for him if she wasn't paying our rent. Before Ryder was even born, her friend gave us tons of baby clothes. His mom went through them and kept what she wanted and then gave them to us. Now why on earth did she need to do that especially since we are only two streets over? She has a key to our place so if it was that necessary she could come and get him clean clothes. Also, most parents put tons of outfits in their diaper bags because its a given that babies spit up. Every time that Ryder is over there, she will put her outfits on him whether or not he's spit up. He has come home in a different outfit every time and there is nothing on the outfits that he went there in. So now I have to wash two sets of outfits and make sure her outfits get back to her. Its almost like she has to play dress up with him. She even calls him a doll. OH! He's not a doll, he's a real life baby. But tonight was the last straw. When we go over there, it is always so hot that we can't stay inside because we start to feel sick and sweat. Ryder gets hot really easily. We have both told her that she can't put so many layers on him plus a blanket. One layer plus a blanket is fine. When he comes home, he is sweating and really hot. I've even taken his temp and he runs a low fever. It's almost like she puts him in a coma. When we went to get him tonight, he was in a fleece sleeper, plus had two fleece blankets around him. She made the comment that she puts the blankets around him because he sleeps. This is not healthy! No wander why he is sick, he sweats at her house then we take him out in the cold to go home. Last week when she watched him, we told her not to go anywhere with him because he still wasn't feeling that well. She told me that she took him for several walks and they sat outside on her deck! It was in the 60's that day and he's been sick...so she takes him outside? Sometimes I feel like she does this stuff deliberately to make me mad! Every time I tell Jeremy that I'm upset he defends his mom. He thinks I'm being mean because I don't like her. I do like her I just wish she would listen to us and drop the comments. My baby's health is at risk here! What do I do?