Buckskin gal
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So many of us have had to deal with or are dealing with issues that are very difficult and even life threatening. I think there is a tendency to want to blame someone or something for those problems and often see those problems as "why me." I ran across this poem and think it has a lot of wisdom to it and just wanted to share it with all of you who might say "why me?" We are all a part of LIFE and sometimes it can be challenging but if we can see matters with an informed mind we will live a better life and be happier.
Time comes in
your life when you finally get it...
When,
in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your
tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out...
ENOUGH!
Enough fighting, and crying, and blaming, and struggling to hold on.
Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your
tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You
realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change,
or for happiness, safety, and security to magically appear over the
next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren't
always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever
after" must begin with you...and in the process a sense of serenity is
born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not
perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve
of who or what you are...and that's OK. They are entitled to their own
views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and
championing yourself...and in the process a sense of new found
confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and
blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn't do for
you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the
unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they
mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there
for you, and that everything isn't always about you.
So, you
learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself...and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You
stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as
they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties... and
in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.
You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really
stand for.
You
learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to
discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown or should never have
bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and
glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through
life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You
learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the
outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the
foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the
world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry
and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they
really are and not as you would have them be.
You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the
importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing
things over, and ignoring your needs.
You
learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it
and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more
water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being
tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to
rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you
take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the
most part, you get in life what you believe, what you allow, and that
much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that
anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for
something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need
direction, discipline, and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to
risk asking for help.
You
learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to
step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever
happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the
right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a
cloud of impending doom.
You
learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think
you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good
people...and you learn not to always take it personally.
[SIZE=12pt]You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't always [/SIZE]
somebody's fault. It's just life happening.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of
walls.
You
learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must
be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you
and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be
thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for
granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream
about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a
long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for
yourself by yourself, and you make yourself a promise to never betray
yourself, and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open
to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the
wind.
Finally,
with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath,
and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.
Author Unknown
Time comes in
your life when you finally get it...
When,
in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your
tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out...
ENOUGH!
Enough fighting, and crying, and blaming, and struggling to hold on.
Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your
tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You
realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change,
or for happiness, safety, and security to magically appear over the
next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren't
always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever
after" must begin with you...and in the process a sense of serenity is
born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not
perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve
of who or what you are...and that's OK. They are entitled to their own
views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and
championing yourself...and in the process a sense of new found
confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and
blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn't do for
you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the
unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they
mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there
for you, and that everything isn't always about you.
So, you
learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself...and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You
stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as
they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties... and
in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.
You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really
stand for.
You
learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to
discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown or should never have
bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and
glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through
life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You
learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the
outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the
foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the
world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry
and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they
really are and not as you would have them be.
You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the
importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing
things over, and ignoring your needs.
You
learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it
and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more
water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being
tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to
rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you
take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the
most part, you get in life what you believe, what you allow, and that
much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that
anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for
something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need
direction, discipline, and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to
risk asking for help.
You
learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to
step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever
happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the
right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a
cloud of impending doom.
You
learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think
you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good
people...and you learn not to always take it personally.
[SIZE=12pt]You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't always [/SIZE]
somebody's fault. It's just life happening.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of
walls.
You
learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must
be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you
and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be
thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for
granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream
about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a
long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for
yourself by yourself, and you make yourself a promise to never betray
yourself, and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open
to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the
wind.
Finally,
with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath,
and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.
Author Unknown