Hi Terri. I too was just thinking about you today! My sister called me today, and I sure wanted to tell you that you CAN go on with your life after a bad relationship, even though it is hard to pick yourself up and go on.
Do you remember my message to you in that topic that you asked to be removed?? I posted about my sister, and all the turmoil she has endured. She was with her husband for 21 years(but was only married for about 10 I think). He was mentally abusive to her, telling her no one would want her, she could never go on without him etc. He screwed around on her several times. She finally left, only to go back for more. That was short lived, and she bit the bullet and decided to cut all ties!
He would not pay support, would not do anything to help her or the kids, except he continued to torment her. She worked as much as she could, cleaning people's houses, and went into great debt trying to keep the house, the bills paid, and the family fed. She had credit cards with high limits, and would use those to pay bills. It got so bad she would take money from one to make a payment on the other,, just so she would not lose it,. as she needed it to help keep them afloat. She finally lost it all....lost the house, and was forced into bankruptcy. Yes she still woulodn't give up, as she had kids to care for.
She went into low cost housing, went on partial assistance, and worked at various places still cleaning. It's now 4 years since she left, and he still has done nothing for them financially. He has had a warrant out for dead beat dad not paying the court issued child support, oh, and the story is too long to get onto here about him!
Anyway, Shelly went back to school, got her grade 12 education, which she never got as a youngster. (She is now 40). She applied for a job as a homecare worker. She went for her interview and they basically hired her before they were even done interviewing everyone that applied! We were so happy for her, and so proud of her for these accomplishments at that time in her life.
She has now been at that job for only 2 weeks, and was getting rave reviews from her clients. Her supervisor called her today to offer her a promotion already!!! They gave her the job of Home Care Coordinator!! She will have regular hours, 8:30-4:30 Mon-Fri. All weekends off, and a full benefits package. She is just tickled, and we are all so VERY, VERY proud of her for doing this, and accomplishing so much.
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So what I am trying to say, is I thought of you right away, about your situation. Just a little "I know you can do it" chant!! Good Luck Terri. Hang in there! Things will get better!!
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