KanoasDestiny
Well-Known Member
It's funny that you suggested recording phone messages. After all of that happened with Lindsay, I definately wanted to and looked for all possible ways to. But I seriously doubt that he cheated on me, as it took nearly four months for him to even want to sleep with me. He is really choosy in that aspect. Still, there was no need to put himself in an awkward position in the first place.
He now carpools with an older man who I do think is a good influence on him. He is married, with 5 kids? But he has always been really respectful towards me and understands why I was mad when Mark called about the fake hospital visit (he was the one my husband went 4-wheeling with). He also doesn't get amusement out of the text messages that goes around from co-workers. I also like his wife a lot, she seems to be very nice also. If Mark hung out with people like that more, I wouldn't mind. But he surrounds himself with the "Fun Group". I understand that guys will be guys but when his attitude towards me changes, then I get upset. He has never hit me or anything like that, but just the fact that he doesn't want to sit down and talk things out anymore bothers me. Especially when he is full of attitude and tells me to shut up when I try to address something. 80% of the time, he is a wonderful person. But when I say anything against his friends or something that he does that bothers me, he turns into a real jerk. I guess we all have our times and can switch really quickly, but this is just a big change for him. He has that "this is me, deal with it" attitude, instead of the "ok, maybe I can work on it" one that I'm used to. And in no way is this a one way street! If he brings something to my attention that something bothers him, I am willing to talk about it and come up with something that we can both be happy with.
It looks like I have a lot of thinking to do.
He now carpools with an older man who I do think is a good influence on him. He is married, with 5 kids? But he has always been really respectful towards me and understands why I was mad when Mark called about the fake hospital visit (he was the one my husband went 4-wheeling with). He also doesn't get amusement out of the text messages that goes around from co-workers. I also like his wife a lot, she seems to be very nice also. If Mark hung out with people like that more, I wouldn't mind. But he surrounds himself with the "Fun Group". I understand that guys will be guys but when his attitude towards me changes, then I get upset. He has never hit me or anything like that, but just the fact that he doesn't want to sit down and talk things out anymore bothers me. Especially when he is full of attitude and tells me to shut up when I try to address something. 80% of the time, he is a wonderful person. But when I say anything against his friends or something that he does that bothers me, he turns into a real jerk. I guess we all have our times and can switch really quickly, but this is just a big change for him. He has that "this is me, deal with it" attitude, instead of the "ok, maybe I can work on it" one that I'm used to. And in no way is this a one way street! If he brings something to my attention that something bothers him, I am willing to talk about it and come up with something that we can both be happy with.
It looks like I have a lot of thinking to do.