mad for mini's
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Please share your experiences with boyfriends that have given you red flags. How did you handle it ? Sit and wait for her to wise up/ forbid seeing/ limit time spent ? We are trying everything but she won't listen, she keeps defending everything he does or says. Every discussion we have with her about it sounds the same as the last and we don't want to push her away.
Our situation : daughter is 17 and has had this boyfriend for 7 months now. He's obbessed with her ( he has to hear from her or see her everyday and if she doesn't call him exactly at 9 pm he is calling her by 9:02, his facebook page is 99% about her, he recently graduated and at his openhouse the collage of his future he made was 100% pictures of them together) he also has anger issues ( I have seen his temper when he doesn't get his way, I've been the cause of it,but so far she says he hasn't done so with her) and control issues ( he does everything for her, even if it isn't his place to do so) and he is very manipulative. I've had a friend that works with mental patients in an institution meet him and later tell me he is dangerous. I trust this friend and what he told me just backed up what I have been feeling all along. She loves him to no end and he is planning to marry her when she turns 18 (in May). I know if this happens, he will have complete control over her and if she were to ever want to leave, he would not allow it. From what we've seen and heard both of us are fearing that he would hurt her or worse.
Sorry this is so long , we are getting desperate and are considering seeking counceling for her as well as for ourselves on how to handle this. I'm hoping that coming here will give me some ideas on what else to try. Thanks.
Our situation : daughter is 17 and has had this boyfriend for 7 months now. He's obbessed with her ( he has to hear from her or see her everyday and if she doesn't call him exactly at 9 pm he is calling her by 9:02, his facebook page is 99% about her, he recently graduated and at his openhouse the collage of his future he made was 100% pictures of them together) he also has anger issues ( I have seen his temper when he doesn't get his way, I've been the cause of it,but so far she says he hasn't done so with her) and control issues ( he does everything for her, even if it isn't his place to do so) and he is very manipulative. I've had a friend that works with mental patients in an institution meet him and later tell me he is dangerous. I trust this friend and what he told me just backed up what I have been feeling all along. She loves him to no end and he is planning to marry her when she turns 18 (in May). I know if this happens, he will have complete control over her and if she were to ever want to leave, he would not allow it. From what we've seen and heard both of us are fearing that he would hurt her or worse.
Sorry this is so long , we are getting desperate and are considering seeking counceling for her as well as for ourselves on how to handle this. I'm hoping that coming here will give me some ideas on what else to try. Thanks.