Help with teenage daughter !

[susanne]

While you can't keep her from seeing him, you can make it easier for her to leave him. Your best bet is to make certain that she knows you are ALWAYS there for her no matter what

Let her know that while you don't care for him, you love her unconditionally and that you respect her judgment. Prove to her that you are always be there for her, through thick and thin, and that you will never judge her nor demean her self respect.

DO NOT let him drive a wedge in between you -- the easiest way to do this is to forbid her from seeing him. That pushes her to him, and it also says that you, along with her boyfriend, believe that she can't or shouldn't think for herself.

Watch for (and make sure she is aware of) signs of danger and physical violence, but again, build the trust that allows her to turn to you without fear of judgment.

When she sees his true colors, she will need somewhere to go -- but he will have driven all of her friends away and perhaps caused her to fear him. She will need you, the parents who will reassure her that she can trust her decision to leave him.

 

[mad for mini's]

Thank you so much for sharing and for all the advice, it really has helped us figure out how to deal with this. All we can do is to wait and let her make her mistakes and make sure she knows we are there for her no matter what. It's just really hard when everyone around her is feeling the same as we do about this kid and she just doesn't see it.

 

[Katiean]

My brothers step daughter is about to lose her boyfriend. She is 17 he is 19. That jerk has raised his fist to Jessie 13 and Joey 10. Just let him hit either of them and there will not be enough left of him to scrape up and put in a match box. Kill the guy and there is no more problem. No, actually he will go to jail for assault. Lets see how he feels about her after he has done 18 months in Jail.