i probably don't have to say this since you have been through your own tragedy but i know for myself, i kept my wits about me between gary's death and his services because i was on a mission to make everything just perfect. i was so busy and too exhausted to allow myself to fall apart. however, immediately after gary's services, i came back to my house, threw myself on our big empty bed and simply got hysterical. i stayed that way for 3 days, almost nonstop. i think my son was ready to send me to the funny farm.Thank you soooooo much for all the helpful things......she's been in overload since this happened last Friday.....such an emotion and heart-tearing week it's been. I've done what I can for her, and now she wants to be alone for a while to grieve her loss. Memorial service is on Monday, and she's trying so hard to keep it together.
My sister's son was murdered in '97, seeing what it did to her, I feel so helpless.