alphahorses
Well-Known Member
First, I want to state that I am fortunate in that this has not happened to me. The people I buy from and sell to have always been very ethical in how they treated me, and I try to do the same. But I see what follows as a growing problem, and believe that the privacy of sales is something we all need to think about - both as buyers and as sellers. So I'm going to post this before it happens to me so that I can discuss it somewhat objectively.
Suppose you have just sold or purchased a horse or are in the middle of the sale. Next thing you know, the buyer or seller is posting something that made them unhappy about you as a buyer or seller or horse owner. Rather than only confiding in a close friend or family member who can give them good advice and keep the matter confidential, they post it on a public forum, on a certain social networking website, or even on their own website. Or they may start circulating email/mail to their 100 closest friends.. who pass it to their 100 best friends. We've all see this numerous times. Perhaps they do not even mention your name - they post it as a "what if" or as a "how do I handle this" post. But sooner or later people will figure out who they are talking about, if it isn't already obvious.
Of course the worst part is that many people (or at least many of the ones who respond) assume that the person who posted is a very reasonable person who is telling the story with complete accuracy, and they jump to the defense of the poster.
How would you feel as the person who is being posted about? Even if the post were only mildly negative? Even if there were some grain of truth in the post?
Added: How do you feel as a third party when you see this type of post? Does it hurt the poster or the person they are posting about more?
We talk about a lot of things on these forums. Sometimes topics help or encourage people. Sometimes they seem to just be posted to stir up trouble. I hope this one can remain a serious and civil conversation that gets us thinking about the impact these posts can have on the buyer or seller who is being posted about, and about ethics of buying/selling in general.
Suppose you have just sold or purchased a horse or are in the middle of the sale. Next thing you know, the buyer or seller is posting something that made them unhappy about you as a buyer or seller or horse owner. Rather than only confiding in a close friend or family member who can give them good advice and keep the matter confidential, they post it on a public forum, on a certain social networking website, or even on their own website. Or they may start circulating email/mail to their 100 closest friends.. who pass it to their 100 best friends. We've all see this numerous times. Perhaps they do not even mention your name - they post it as a "what if" or as a "how do I handle this" post. But sooner or later people will figure out who they are talking about, if it isn't already obvious.
Of course the worst part is that many people (or at least many of the ones who respond) assume that the person who posted is a very reasonable person who is telling the story with complete accuracy, and they jump to the defense of the poster.
How would you feel as the person who is being posted about? Even if the post were only mildly negative? Even if there were some grain of truth in the post?
Added: How do you feel as a third party when you see this type of post? Does it hurt the poster or the person they are posting about more?
We talk about a lot of things on these forums. Sometimes topics help or encourage people. Sometimes they seem to just be posted to stir up trouble. I hope this one can remain a serious and civil conversation that gets us thinking about the impact these posts can have on the buyer or seller who is being posted about, and about ethics of buying/selling in general.
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