Andi, I do agree with you to a point and I empathize with your situation. My husband is no where near a professional handler. He actually had to handle a horse for me at Nationals this year as it was a case of co owning a horse and wires got crossed and I had 2 horses in the same amateur class. This was the first class he ever stepped foot in. YIKES! THe only way he can learn now is to jump in both feet and compete in open classes.
Anyway, off topic but...I have gone pro and after Nationals started accepting money for training. This rule has been in place for quite some time. We have been working toward this goal for several years now knowing that my husband would not be able to show amateur after the decision was made. The fact that he has not got the desire or skill to present a horse in the ring doesn't matter. It was our decision and we knew the consequences ahead of time. I knew that my back up handler was going to have to be someone else other than my husband. He is invaluable help around the farm just not in the ring.
It really just goes to show that we need to think through our decisions fully before we make them. Evaluate the pros and cons and make an educated decision.
Also as far as the definition of amateur. Websters describes it this way
1)A person who engages in an art, science, study, or athletic activity as a pastime rather than as a profession.
2)Sports. An athlete who has never accepted money, or who accepts money under restrictions specified by a regulatory body, for participating in a competition.
3)One lacking the skill of a professional, as in an art.
Notice the first 2 use money as the difference.
Remember all Olympic athletes are amateurs. I sure cant perform to their level yet they are considered amateur because they are not paid for what they do. They have to find sponsors or pay their own way to get to that level. Their costs can be covered but they cannot earn a living doing the sport they compete in.
Edited to say...I guess I am so passionate about this because for several years I have had to defend the fact that I was an amateur not a professional.