Lisa
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I need opinions on whether I am out of line in a situation with my cousin (who I live with) or not. I’m of two minds on it, one one hand I think I am not overstepping, on the other I wonder if I am. I have been told by several people that I am not out of line, but rather my cousin is.
My cousin is pregnant. She has TOLD me that I am cleaning the litter box for HER cat because she is pregnant, she never asked when I found out she was pregnant. I do know that it isn’t good for pregnant women to clean a litter box, but it is fine with a mask and gloves on and washing afterward. She gets huffy when I don’t do it when she wants me to, and her cat peed on the carpet the other night while I was out all day because his litter box was dirty, so she did it while being in a bad mood to me. Her cat pees more than my mom’s FOUR cats and it literally makes me sick to clean it, it is so disgusting, even after a day. I broke the scoop the other day when cleaning it, because it was so clay-like.
My mom and grandma started me thinking about this because they said that her boyfriend should be cleaning the box, HE’S the one that got her pregnant, it’s not my fault. He won't and wouldn't even if she asked. He refused to bring my cat to Alberta when he was going home to BC because he did not want to clean a litter box. I don’t have a cat there yet, therefore they think that she should not be getting mad at me if I don’t clean it when she wants me to.
I don’t like the way she treats me when it comes to this: telling me it is MY responsibility, getting mad when I haven’t done it, blaming HER cat peeing on the carpet on me. I have heard her complaining about me to her mom and friends on the phone in her room about this. I have to live with her for a year and don’t want to cause problems, but I keep being told I am being a doormat about this and I need to stick up for myself, that it is not my job to clean her cat’s box just because she is pregnant.
Am I wrong?
My cousin is pregnant. She has TOLD me that I am cleaning the litter box for HER cat because she is pregnant, she never asked when I found out she was pregnant. I do know that it isn’t good for pregnant women to clean a litter box, but it is fine with a mask and gloves on and washing afterward. She gets huffy when I don’t do it when she wants me to, and her cat peed on the carpet the other night while I was out all day because his litter box was dirty, so she did it while being in a bad mood to me. Her cat pees more than my mom’s FOUR cats and it literally makes me sick to clean it, it is so disgusting, even after a day. I broke the scoop the other day when cleaning it, because it was so clay-like.
My mom and grandma started me thinking about this because they said that her boyfriend should be cleaning the box, HE’S the one that got her pregnant, it’s not my fault. He won't and wouldn't even if she asked. He refused to bring my cat to Alberta when he was going home to BC because he did not want to clean a litter box. I don’t have a cat there yet, therefore they think that she should not be getting mad at me if I don’t clean it when she wants me to.
I don’t like the way she treats me when it comes to this: telling me it is MY responsibility, getting mad when I haven’t done it, blaming HER cat peeing on the carpet on me. I have heard her complaining about me to her mom and friends on the phone in her room about this. I have to live with her for a year and don’t want to cause problems, but I keep being told I am being a doormat about this and I need to stick up for myself, that it is not my job to clean her cat’s box just because she is pregnant.
Am I wrong?