minisaremighty
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Hi All!
I know it's been forever since I've posted and I bet most of you don't even know who I am! LOL!
Anyhow, I have a 5th grade daughter (Jenna) and a 7th grade daughter (Jessica) at the same small school (there are only about 20 girls in the 5th through 8th grade at this school. There is this girl in the 8th grade (I'll call her Jane) who came to our school when she was in the 6th and Jenna was in the 3rd grade. Jane was nice to Jenna and they became friends. Now that Jane is in the 8th grade, she has matured and wants to move on from her friendships with the younger girls and just focus on the older ones. She is always very nice, but Jenna does not understand this and still tries to spend a lot of time with her. I know this is just a natural progression, but the younger kids just don't understand it. Jessica has been rather rude to her sister whenever she approaches Jane because she knows how Jane feels and she feels she is sparing Jenna from being upset with Jane and allowing Jenna to be upset at her instead.
So in an odd way, Jessica is trying to help, but she's making matters worse I think! LOL!
Anyway, how can I convey to Jenna that Jane really has moved on? Jenna still firmly believes they are good friends. I don't want Jenna's feelings hurt, but I think it's time to deal with this, I just don't know how!
I know there are a lot of you out there and figure some of you may have some advice, maybe from some personal experience?? I am familiar with this type of situation because it happened to Jessica a couple years ago when she had a friend that was 4 grades older than her. But she is a totally different kid and understands the most complex of situations. Jenna is not that way at all. She is much more naive.
Thank you in advance!!!
I know it's been forever since I've posted and I bet most of you don't even know who I am! LOL!
Anyhow, I have a 5th grade daughter (Jenna) and a 7th grade daughter (Jessica) at the same small school (there are only about 20 girls in the 5th through 8th grade at this school. There is this girl in the 8th grade (I'll call her Jane) who came to our school when she was in the 6th and Jenna was in the 3rd grade. Jane was nice to Jenna and they became friends. Now that Jane is in the 8th grade, she has matured and wants to move on from her friendships with the younger girls and just focus on the older ones. She is always very nice, but Jenna does not understand this and still tries to spend a lot of time with her. I know this is just a natural progression, but the younger kids just don't understand it. Jessica has been rather rude to her sister whenever she approaches Jane because she knows how Jane feels and she feels she is sparing Jenna from being upset with Jane and allowing Jenna to be upset at her instead.
So in an odd way, Jessica is trying to help, but she's making matters worse I think! LOL!
Anyway, how can I convey to Jenna that Jane really has moved on? Jenna still firmly believes they are good friends. I don't want Jenna's feelings hurt, but I think it's time to deal with this, I just don't know how!
I know there are a lot of you out there and figure some of you may have some advice, maybe from some personal experience?? I am familiar with this type of situation because it happened to Jessica a couple years ago when she had a friend that was 4 grades older than her. But she is a totally different kid and understands the most complex of situations. Jenna is not that way at all. She is much more naive.
Thank you in advance!!!