Oh..my heart is breaking for you. I think you have received some wonderful advice. So, I can't add much, but I will try.
I wish you did not have to go through this pain. Prayer helps allot for me anyway. I really think you should talk to someone. I also had to go to a counseler I don't know how all counselors are, but they did tell me if something was being done illegal they had to turn it in. She also told me I DID NOT have to name names. I won't add her name here because of her protection, but she really helped me then. Be sure and ask..DO I HAVE TO SAY NAMES.
I am also 100% against drinking and driving.
I had a family member that showed up to my house a couple of years ago. I had tip toed for years over this because of family problems.
Well, this person showed up to my house not completely drunk..but, enough they should not have been driving. I was TIRED OF TIP TOEING to keep family trouble down.
I looked right in this person's face in my living room...I said.....You could have met me , my children, a stranger, etc. and killed them in a car accident. So, if you want to take that chance you go right ahead...but, you remember YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT...AND ..YOU WILL SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IN PRISON. I told this person I would do everything I could to make sure they went to prison.
I love this person with ALL MY HEART...it has been two years...it hasn't happened again ..at least not to my home. What is really SAD..this person is one of the nicest person you would every meet in your life. This person would give the shirt off of their back to a stranger. That is what is so SAD TO ME!
ALWAYS REMEMBER - YOU are not the bad person.
Sorry, so many caps...drinking and driving really gets under my skin. Most of the time on the news the drunk survives. That is how I see it anyway.