We had to up and leave everything to come to take care of my 86 yr old mother. She called me last yr and told me she was so scared, alone, and needed some help for awhile. Of course I had talked with her daily prior to that converstation but I have never heard her so frantic. Well, I of course came up that day and have never left. We have been here for over a year, I have five other sisters and brother. My mother is blind and can not walk. I got the family together and we talked about Mom. Prior to me MOVING here, she lived alone. Of course, my sisters would come and throw food at her in the AM, Noon and supper and then they would put her to bed and leave.
We all agreed that she should no longer be left alone, and of course it was all on me.. As David and I didn't have jobs, we just played with a huge herd of horses. (WHATEVER).
Well, since I have been here, no one.. and I mean noone has come to help me with her. She can't be left alone, and in fact, can't be alone in a room by herself. She gets scared. If I get up to even go to the restroom she freaks. Please don't misunderstand me. I love her, but I beginning to truly feel like I am being cheated. Our lives are on hold. She will get up in the middle of the night and fall.. I suggested a hospital bed, but the family things that would only depress her further. But I get blamed when she does fall.
I have been talking with my Mom's Dr's nurse and she says you have got to put your foot down. My brother lives 3 blocks from here. And my Mom has not seen him since last Oct.. That to me is not acceptable.
I guess I just needed to vent. Have any of you taken care of a elderly parent. I sometimes look at her and remember all she did for us kids. She was so sweet, loving, unselfish person I have ever known.. She is now, the most selfish, uncaring person I have ever known.
She told David it is much worse to lose a spouse, (my dad passed away) then to lose a child, referring to Joshua. I couldn't believe that even came out of her mouth, and it's always poor me, I have had such a hard life?? Hard life? I reminder her that my Dad retired and lived 30 yrs after. To me that is amazing. She had a easy life. She had a good life. She lost no children, she was did have colon cancer and they caught it so early all she had to do was go thru the surgery, but no chemo or no radiation, and that was 10 yrs ago, and she still is cancer free.
Why do I feel like I almost can't stand her? I am getting so depressed its not funny. She won't go with me to even see the horses, so David has to take care of them. and of course I can't go by myself. TO me that is so selfish..
Sorry, I needed to vent and get some advise. I have threatened my family that I am OUT OF HERE.. and they throw it back in my face, well remember you are the one that will make her go in a nursing home.
Well, enough about me.. I read on the back porch all that are so very sick, and going thru horrible things in there lives.. I read all these, and know, I pray for each and everyone of you..
Lara
We all agreed that she should no longer be left alone, and of course it was all on me.. As David and I didn't have jobs, we just played with a huge herd of horses. (WHATEVER).
Well, since I have been here, no one.. and I mean noone has come to help me with her. She can't be left alone, and in fact, can't be alone in a room by herself. She gets scared. If I get up to even go to the restroom she freaks. Please don't misunderstand me. I love her, but I beginning to truly feel like I am being cheated. Our lives are on hold. She will get up in the middle of the night and fall.. I suggested a hospital bed, but the family things that would only depress her further. But I get blamed when she does fall.
I have been talking with my Mom's Dr's nurse and she says you have got to put your foot down. My brother lives 3 blocks from here. And my Mom has not seen him since last Oct.. That to me is not acceptable.
I guess I just needed to vent. Have any of you taken care of a elderly parent. I sometimes look at her and remember all she did for us kids. She was so sweet, loving, unselfish person I have ever known.. She is now, the most selfish, uncaring person I have ever known.
She told David it is much worse to lose a spouse, (my dad passed away) then to lose a child, referring to Joshua. I couldn't believe that even came out of her mouth, and it's always poor me, I have had such a hard life?? Hard life? I reminder her that my Dad retired and lived 30 yrs after. To me that is amazing. She had a easy life. She had a good life. She lost no children, she was did have colon cancer and they caught it so early all she had to do was go thru the surgery, but no chemo or no radiation, and that was 10 yrs ago, and she still is cancer free.
Why do I feel like I almost can't stand her? I am getting so depressed its not funny. She won't go with me to even see the horses, so David has to take care of them. and of course I can't go by myself. TO me that is so selfish..
Sorry, I needed to vent and get some advise. I have threatened my family that I am OUT OF HERE.. and they throw it back in my face, well remember you are the one that will make her go in a nursing home.
Well, enough about me.. I read on the back porch all that are so very sick, and going thru horrible things in there lives.. I read all these, and know, I pray for each and everyone of you..
Lara