anoki
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Ok, so Mom and I were away for a week, and we came home to find part of the house changed.....
My sister, Jess, was there when Mom walked in the house.....let's just say she wasn't too impressed. My other sister & brother-in-law came shortly after we got home.....my b-i-l had made and installed new kitchen cabinets for Mom, my Jess had spent MANY hours putting things back in the cupboards. The construction on them is gorgeous, but it is not a colour (or design) that Mom would have picked for her kitchen (which, I agree...but it's not *my* choice anyway). Also, there were certain things done with her old cabinets for a reason, and that stuff is all changed now......which, yes, she will get used to, but on first seeing it, it's one of those things that you say something before you think about it.
Anyway, my b-i-l ended up leaving to walk home (they live in town which is, I don't know, about 10-15 kms away), so my sister drove after him and took him home. THEN when she got back, Jess left in tears. I also got reamed out for not telling her it was happening....I knew they were measuring for them a couple of months ago, but I have had soo much other things on my mind lately, that I honestly COMPLETELY forgot. My Mom had NO idea that this was going to happen while we were gone....now she has to completely redo her kitchen, and she really wasn't planning on it yet. She's not upset with the thought and the amount of work that went into it, she's upset that ALL that work went into it, and it wasn't something that she would have picked for her kitchen...now she HAS to do something with the kitchen because the cupboards stand out against the rest of the kitchen. Mom babysits for my sister & b-i-l so she's seen that sister a few times this week (plus she took Mom counter and knob shopping the other day...which she said my b-i-l would be out to put the knobs on all the drawers and cupboards....he hasn't been here yet). My other sister that left in tears, well I tried calling her that night, and she wouldn't answer the phone. Mom left a message tonight, and she hasn't returned the call (and I know she's home, she sent an email after Mom called her). My Mom has been in tears EVERY night since we got back about this....she doesn't know what to do....knows my b-i-l will never forgive her because she said she didn't like it....and she doesn't know what is up with my other sister.
I started to write an email to both of my sisters, but I'm not sure that is the answer.....but I don't think they realize how much Mom wasn't looking forward to coming home for OTHER reasons, then to walk in and find her kitchen completely changed...I don't think they realize she had a LOT of other things going on before she walked through the door....and when she saw the cupboards changed, and not in a way she would have done them, that was just the straw that broke the camel's back......I know I can't get ahold of my one sister unless I email her, since she's not answering her phone when we call....but I just don't want to come off witchy in it.....but I'm tired of getting the brunt of the situation from Mom....
thoughts??
and sorry this kinda rambled on....
~kathryn
My sister, Jess, was there when Mom walked in the house.....let's just say she wasn't too impressed. My other sister & brother-in-law came shortly after we got home.....my b-i-l had made and installed new kitchen cabinets for Mom, my Jess had spent MANY hours putting things back in the cupboards. The construction on them is gorgeous, but it is not a colour (or design) that Mom would have picked for her kitchen (which, I agree...but it's not *my* choice anyway). Also, there were certain things done with her old cabinets for a reason, and that stuff is all changed now......which, yes, she will get used to, but on first seeing it, it's one of those things that you say something before you think about it.
Anyway, my b-i-l ended up leaving to walk home (they live in town which is, I don't know, about 10-15 kms away), so my sister drove after him and took him home. THEN when she got back, Jess left in tears. I also got reamed out for not telling her it was happening....I knew they were measuring for them a couple of months ago, but I have had soo much other things on my mind lately, that I honestly COMPLETELY forgot. My Mom had NO idea that this was going to happen while we were gone....now she has to completely redo her kitchen, and she really wasn't planning on it yet. She's not upset with the thought and the amount of work that went into it, she's upset that ALL that work went into it, and it wasn't something that she would have picked for her kitchen...now she HAS to do something with the kitchen because the cupboards stand out against the rest of the kitchen. Mom babysits for my sister & b-i-l so she's seen that sister a few times this week (plus she took Mom counter and knob shopping the other day...which she said my b-i-l would be out to put the knobs on all the drawers and cupboards....he hasn't been here yet). My other sister that left in tears, well I tried calling her that night, and she wouldn't answer the phone. Mom left a message tonight, and she hasn't returned the call (and I know she's home, she sent an email after Mom called her). My Mom has been in tears EVERY night since we got back about this....she doesn't know what to do....knows my b-i-l will never forgive her because she said she didn't like it....and she doesn't know what is up with my other sister.
I started to write an email to both of my sisters, but I'm not sure that is the answer.....but I don't think they realize how much Mom wasn't looking forward to coming home for OTHER reasons, then to walk in and find her kitchen completely changed...I don't think they realize she had a LOT of other things going on before she walked through the door....and when she saw the cupboards changed, and not in a way she would have done them, that was just the straw that broke the camel's back......I know I can't get ahold of my one sister unless I email her, since she's not answering her phone when we call....but I just don't want to come off witchy in it.....but I'm tired of getting the brunt of the situation from Mom....
thoughts??
and sorry this kinda rambled on....
~kathryn